Albert Ellis Quotes

• People don’t just get upset. They contribute to their upsetness.

  Albert Ellis

  Topics in Uncategorized

  Tags in Get, Upset, Just, Contribute

• The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny.

  Albert Ellis

  Topics in Uncategorized

  Tags in Responsibility, Control, Maturity, Destiny

• You largely constructed your depression. It wasn’t given to you. Therefore, you can deconstruct it.

  Albert Ellis

  Topics in Uncategorized

  Tags in Largely, Given, Depression

• I had a great many s*x and love cases where people were absolutely devastated when somebody with whom they were compulsively in love didn’t love them back. They were killing themselves with anxiety and depression.

  Albert Ellis

  Topics in Love

  Tags in Themselves, Devastated, Compulsively, Killing, Depression

• People could rationally decide that prolonged relationships take up too much time and effort and that they’d much rather do other kinds of things. But most people are afraid of rejection.

  Albert Ellis

  Topics in Uncategorized

  Tags in People, Relationships, Rejection, Dating

• I hope to die in the saddle seat.

  Albert Ellis

  Topics in Uncategorized

  Tags in Hope, Die

• As a result of my philosophy, I wasn’t even upset about Hitler. I was willing to go to war to knock him off, but I didn’t hate him. I hated what he was doing.

  Albert Ellis

  Topics in Uncategorized

  Tags in Result, Hate, Philosophy, Knock

• Many psychoanalysts refused to let me speak at their meetings. They were exceptionally vigorous because I had previously been an analyst and they were very angry at my flying the coop.

  Albert Ellis

  Topics in Uncategorized

  Tags in Psychoanalysts, Angry, Been, Refused, Flying, Many

• For that again, is what all manner of religion essentially is: childish dependency.

  Albert Ellis

  Topics in Religion

  Tags in Dependency, Essentially, Childish, Manner

• I think it’s unfair, but they have the right as fallible, screwed-up humans to be unfair; that’s the human condition.

  Albert Ellis

  Topics in Uncategorized

  Tags in Fallible, Screwed, Unfair, Right, Human

• Rational beliefs bring us closer to getting good results in the real world.

  Albert Ellis

  Topics in Belief

  Tags in Rational, World, Getting, Good, Bring

• In the old days we used to get more referrals, because people had insurance that paid for therapy. Now they belong to HMOs, and we can only be affiliated with a few HMOs.

  Albert Ellis

  Topics in Uncategorized

  Tags in Affiliated, Belong, Insurance, Get, Few, Old

• Self-esteem is the greatest sickness known to man or woman because it’s conditional.

  Albert Ellis

  Topics in Uncategorized

  Tags in Greatest, Sickness

• I started to call myself a rational therapist in 1955; later I used the term rational emotive. Now I call myself a rational emotive behavior therapist.

  Albert Ellis

  Topics in Uncategorized

  Tags in Rational, Emotive, Therapist, Myself, Behavior
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  The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide problems are your own. You do not blame them on anyone or anything. You realize that you control your own destiny.

  Albert Ellis

  Topics in Life

  Tags in Destiny, Realize

• There are three musts that hold us back: I must do well. You must treat me well. And the world must be easy.

  Albert Ellis

  Topics in Uncategorized

  Tags in World, Back, Hold, Easy, Must

• People have motives and thoughts of which they are unaware.

  Albert Ellis

  Topics in Uncategorized

  Tags in Motives

• By not caring too much about what people think, I’m able to think for myself and propagate ideas which are very often unpopular. And I succeed.

  Albert Ellis

  Topics in Uncategorized

  Tags in Caring, Think, Myself

• I would have liked having children to some degree, but frankly I haven’t got the time to take the kids to the goddamn ballgame.

  Albert Ellis

  Topics in Children

  Tags in Degree, Frankly, Time

• I think the future of psychotherapy and psychology is in the school system. We need to teach every child how to rarely seriously disturb himself or herself and how to overcome disturbance when it occurs.

  Albert Ellis

  Topics in Future

  Tags in Disturb, Overcome, School

Albert Ellis (35)

Birth:	27th September, 1913
Death:	24th July, 2007
Nationality:	American
Profession:	Psychologist, Psychotherapist, Writer

About

Albert Ellis was an American psychologist who in 1955 developed Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy. He held M.A. and Ph.D. degrees in clinical psychology from Columbia University and American Board of Professional Psychology. He also founded and was the president emeritus of the New York City-based Albert Ellis Institute.He is generally considered to be one of the originators of the cognitive revolutionary paradigm shift in psychotherapy and the founder of cognitive-behavioral therapies. Based on a 1982 professional survey of U.S. and Canadian psychologists, he was considered as the second most influential psychotherapist in history.

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